Friendship is the con-division that precedes every division, since what has to be shared is the very fact of existence, life itself. And it is this sharing without an object, this original con-senting, that constitutes the political." (36)
in What Is an Apparatus? Stanford UP: 2009.
This quote is from a much larger discussion of Aristotle, but the first sentences in the quotation above clobbered and fascinated me. A connection or experience that precedes, and indeed envelopes, either friend. You might even say that the friends are effects of the prior connection. There's a lot more in the essay, but for me, there's a lot more to be unpacked, pondered, and tested in the notion that friends are shared by the experience of friendship. I'm going to be mulling this for a good long time.
[Image is of Barthes, with Foucault & Lacan behind him, greeting Deleuze in the underworld after death. From the utterly delightful comic, Salut, Deleuze! by Martin tom Dieck & Jens Balzer.]